Adult Children in Relationships

One of the most challenging areas for Adult Children is with relationships: friendships, romantic relationships, relationships with teachers, co-workers, bosses, supervisees, customers, etc.

Here's what that looks like:  

• Being a chameleon - what you think others want you to be, instead of being yourself.
• Difficulty handling feedback and criticism.
• Isolation and lack of close relationships.
• Out-of-balance and co-dependent relationships - seeking the approval of others, not feeling whole or worthy.
• Fear that others will find out what you are really like.
• Have addictive behaviors yourself, married an addict, or both (this includes compulsive behavior like workaholism or intense training/study – it may even look positive) - neither partner is emotionally available.
• A tendency to confuse feelings of love and pity - attracted to people that you can rescue and take care of.
• An overdeveloped sense of responsibility - concerned about the needs of others and neglecting your own wants and needs.
• Feelings of guilt associated with standing up for yourself or challenging others.
• Tendency to be reactive vs. proactive; letting others or circumstances force decisions.
• Fear of abandonment - doing almost anything to hold onto a relationship even if it’s bad or you don’t really want it

Contact me if you'd like to have healthier and more stable relationships.